Yesterday morning I woke to my normal Friday of working from my home office, when I realized that I had an important video-chat/meeting in only a couple of hours with my boss and my peers. Typically I roll out of bed and directly into the shower, but working from home allows me to take the lazy day – t-shirt and sweat pants – approach to primping and polishing.
As I rushed the family out the door, I realized I didn’t have enough time left in my pre-office morning to get in a good workout, a healthy breakfast and still make myself even remotely presentable for inviting my people into my virtual office.
I improvised. I threw a sliced banana onto a whole wheat english muffin with a couple of tablespoons of peanut butter: Breakfast – Check. Quickly I completed a 12 minute Ab workout video: Fitness – Check Check! And I threw myself into the shower to get ready to play grown-up professional. At least I had good hygeine.
Standing in front of the mirror, I glanced to the clock. Almost out of time, so I threw my dripping hair into a mussed pony tail. The way I looked really didn’t promote self-confidence, so I dug deep into my memory for esteem boosters that I could pull out in a pinch.
There in my memory I found my friend Joye. I remembered back to a gem of advice she had given me a couple of years ago. I was planning to meet a man out who I had met through Match.com, and she and I were discussing my chosen outfit for such an occasion. I shared with her my nerves as I ventured into Online Dating, and I explained my concerns with finding an appropriate dress-code for the occasion.
I didn’t want to appear to eager – overdressing and self-promoting for a Wednesday evening get-to-know-you cocktail. Giving the wrong impression in the Internet romance arena can come back to bite me.
I struggled to come up with an outfit that would allow me the confidence a woman can find when she discovers the perfect pair of jeans. Whether this man decided I was worth a second date or not, simply put, I needed to feel good about me.
Joye said to me, “Heidi, nothing puts a little pep in your step like a sassy new lip gloss. You’d be amazed what the right shade will do for your ego – not to mention your pucker.”
Brilliance! While the second-date never happened, that choice was mine. I looked good and felt even better when I ordered a glass of cabernet with my gentleman caller. But even the best lip gloss in the world can’t create a chemistry that simply isn’t there. I thanked the gentleman for the evening, and politely excused myself from the potential of any romantic connection.
So that was a few years back, and I was a very different woman back then. Over the last couple of years, I’ve grown in my career as well as in my romantic life – to a Master of my Art.
Today I have new challenges – personally and professionally. And yesterday morning was a very important conference call. Could gaining my footing be as simple as a fresh glimmer of pink on my lips?
Guess what? It worked. A quick splash of color was all I needed to liven my mind as well as my face. And the confidence I had in myself even came through the computer screen.
Sometimes, my life can get quite chaotic. My days seem to run together while I struggle to be a mother, a professional woman, a friend, and a lover. But when the chaos of those moments starts to take over, I look for those pearls of wisdom I find while I study the Art of Toad Kissing. Sometimes, just a quick pampering of myself is all I need to remind me why I can look in the mirror and feel proud of the woman I have become.
Thanks, Joye, and I hope you don’t mind me sharing your lip gloss with my new, dear friends. Great advice!
Friends, what good thoughts do you have of Lip Gloss – and what other confidence-boosters can you suggest?